Comments on: Dresses and dashed dreams… http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/ There Is No 'You' In Quivering ... Thu, 17 May 2012 00:53:03 +0000 hourly 1 By: visual-syntax http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-38 visual-syntax Mon, 06 Apr 2009 17:45:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-38 Wow, that's just heartbreaking. Congrats on breaking away and I hope your kids grow up happy now that they're out of that environment.<br/><br/><3<br/>Lisa Wow, that's just heartbreaking. Congrats on breaking away and I hope your kids grow up happy now that they're out of that environment.

<3
Lisa

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-37 Anonymous Fri, 20 Mar 2009 22:55:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-37 Whatever Laura's actions in the past, she IS brave and I think her honesty with herself about how she got into the situation is also brave. If I were her, I'd be sick of the self righteous preaching. Whatever Laura’s actions in the past, she IS brave and I think her honesty with herself about how she got into the situation is also brave. If I were her, I’d be sick of the self righteous preaching.

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Anonymous Fri, 20 Mar 2009 18:58:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-36 Everyone who is commenting here is lauding Laura for being so brave to leave Dale, but that fact is, that Laura bears some responsibility also. She admits that when she married him she was being mindless - not thinking and therefore, not putting into words what was going wrong. This is not Biblical submission or helpmating. A helpmate is a helper to her husband in so many ways, and being a counselor, sounding board, giving a different perspective, calling him to grow in Christ, all those are her jobs, not just doing the physical work. <br/><br/>Both Laura and Dale are sinners, just like all the rest of us. Both of them failed in their roles as spouses, both misconstrued the words of Scripture, so the picture Laura is painting is not accurate to what God has said. <br/><br/>Laura, you are reacting to sin in Dale's life, and in yours too, and you have projected that sin onto God falsely. You can find the truth and be free! Everyone who is commenting here is lauding Laura for being so brave to leave Dale, but that fact is, that Laura bears some responsibility also. She admits that when she married him she was being mindless – not thinking and therefore, not putting into words what was going wrong. This is not Biblical submission or helpmating. A helpmate is a helper to her husband in so many ways, and being a counselor, sounding board, giving a different perspective, calling him to grow in Christ, all those are her jobs, not just doing the physical work.

Both Laura and Dale are sinners, just like all the rest of us. Both of them failed in their roles as spouses, both misconstrued the words of Scripture, so the picture Laura is painting is not accurate to what God has said.

Laura, you are reacting to sin in Dale’s life, and in yours too, and you have projected that sin onto God falsely. You can find the truth and be free!

]]> By: Volly http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-35 Volly Sun, 15 Mar 2009 03:52:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-35 Reading about Dale (and so many others like him), the two words that come to mind are:<br/><br/>American Taliban. Reading about Dale (and so many others like him), the two words that come to mind are:

American Taliban.

]]> By: abe http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-34 abe Sun, 15 Mar 2009 00:30:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-34 The word "head" used in 1 cor 11:3 and Eph. 5:23 comes from the Greek word "kephale." Kephale did not have the meaning of leader or authority. Look at the following link to see what I mean.<br/><br/>http://www.geocities.com/about_biblical_equality/Head-Greek-EnglishLexicon.htm The word “head” used in 1 cor 11:3 and Eph. 5:23 comes from the Greek word “kephale.” Kephale did not have the meaning of leader or authority. Look at the following link to see what I mean.

http://www.geocities.com/about_biblical_equality/Head-Greek-EnglishLexicon.htm

]]> By: tiro http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-33 tiro Sat, 14 Mar 2009 22:52:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-33 I want to tell you that I am crying reading this. It is a travesty that you had been tricked into giving up your will, your everything into the control of a person who did not have your best interests in mind. Anyone who seeks to so control another never has their best interest in mind.<br/><br/>I am praying for God to continue to show you that the Patriarchal quiverful movement is not His Way, and that His Way is freeing, empowering, encouraging and will help you to be the person God created you to be. <br/><br/>hugs,<br/>tiro I want to tell you that I am crying reading this. It is a travesty that you had been tricked into giving up your will, your everything into the control of a person who did not have your best interests in mind. Anyone who seeks to so control another never has their best interest in mind.

I am praying for God to continue to show you that the Patriarchal quiverful movement is not His Way, and that His Way is freeing, empowering, encouraging and will help you to be the person God created you to be.

hugs,
tiro

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Anonymous Sat, 14 Mar 2009 18:41:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-32 Hang in there both of you brave women. Hope you will post updates in Salon, as your story is amazing. Hang in there both of you brave women. Hope you will post updates in Salon, as your story is amazing.

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-31 Anonymous Sat, 14 Mar 2009 14:42:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-31 God is love and that's really all you have to know about it.<br/>Surely God loves you two and your honesty and bravery!<br/>Love,<br/>Fugi God is love and that’s really all you have to know about it.
Surely God loves you two and your honesty and bravery!
Love,
Fugi

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/comment-page-1/#comment-30 Anonymous Sat, 14 Mar 2009 02:32:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/03/12/dresses-and-dashed-dreams/#comment-30 Laura, I so look forward to reading the next excerpt from your history. Know that you are beyond courageous for leaving that world! I was never a Quiverfull mother but grew up in evangelical, charismatic Christianity and now am atheist. So the lingo still makes me cringe from church, etc.<br/><br/>But most importantly, thank you for your bravery and being true to your self in setting up this website. Your moms know you and even from the photo, I can see such love and 'welcome back, Laura!' in their eyes.<br/><br/>Take good care, <br/>Stephanie Laura, I so look forward to reading the next excerpt from your history. Know that you are beyond courageous for leaving that world! I was never a Quiverfull mother but grew up in evangelical, charismatic Christianity and now am atheist. So the lingo still makes me cringe from church, etc.

But most importantly, thank you for your bravery and being true to your self in setting up this website. Your moms know you and even from the photo, I can see such love and ‘welcome back, Laura!’ in their eyes.

Take good care,
Stephanie

]]>