Comments on: I Have Too Many Kids! http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/ There Is No 'You' In Quivering ... Thu, 17 May 2012 00:53:03 +0000 hourly 1 By: Vyckie http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1303 Vyckie Thu, 16 Apr 2009 04:11:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1303 The discussion for this post has been moved over to our new NLQ forums: <a HREF="http://nolongerquivering.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=2many" REL="nofollow">http://nolongerquivering.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=2many</a>No further comments on this post will be accepted here ~ please go to the forums. Thank you ;-) The discussion for this post has been moved over to our new NLQ forums: http://nolongerquivering.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=2manyNo further comments on this post will be accepted here ~ please go to the forums. Thank you ;-)

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1302 Anonymous Wed, 15 Apr 2009 02:32:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1302 Jesus told the woman at the well "Go forth and sin no more. He did not suggest that if she did not have a large amount of children she should meet him back there for new blessing. God does not dictate our life to us, just to live it with integrity and love for our fellow man. I am afraid we are mixing up the QF movement and christianilty. QF is to Christianity what extremism is to Islam. They don't all blow up buses and we don't all need to prove ourselve with multiple kids. Jesus told the woman at the well “Go forth and sin no more. He did not suggest that if she did not have a large amount of children she should meet him back there for new blessing. God does not dictate our life to us, just to live it with integrity and love for our fellow man. I am afraid we are mixing up the QF movement and christianilty. QF is to Christianity what extremism is to Islam. They don’t all blow up buses and we don’t all need to prove ourselve with multiple kids.

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1301 Anonymous Wed, 15 Apr 2009 02:25:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1301 You reminded me of a great essay I read as a fresheman in college called (I think) Everybody Needs a Wife. It was in my Bedford Reader. Don't worry I only have 3 and I feel quite inadaquate often. Also would feel that way if I had 1 or 10 from what all my friends who have other numbers tell me. Your kids do not know any other way and would not trade you in to be an only child or in a less numbered family. They love you just how you are, their mom. <br />-Oregon again You reminded me of a great essay I read as a fresheman in college called (I think) Everybody Needs a Wife. It was in my Bedford Reader. Don’t worry I only have 3 and I feel quite inadaquate often. Also would feel that way if I had 1 or 10 from what all my friends who have other numbers tell me. Your kids do not know any other way and would not trade you in to be an only child or in a less numbered family. They love you just how you are, their mom.
-Oregon again

]]> By: Vyckie http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1300 Vyckie Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:22:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1300 Melissa ~ please do speak up. I highly recommend Kathryn Joyce's book, "Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement." Something about the way she lays it all out at once is just a real eye-opener. I think it would help if she could see where it's all heading and what a trap it is once you get there. <br /><br />If they're into the patriarchy thing ~ then by all means, play by their own rules and speak to her husband. I honestly believe that most husbands would be glad to have reasons why they shouldn't go along with this lifestyle which is mainly being pushed by the wife.<br /><br />Thanks for your post ~ I hope you can get through to your cousin. Melissa ~ please do speak up. I highly recommend Kathryn Joyce’s book, “Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement.” Something about the way she lays it all out at once is just a real eye-opener. I think it would help if she could see where it’s all heading and what a trap it is once you get there.

If they’re into the patriarchy thing ~ then by all means, play by their own rules and speak to her husband. I honestly believe that most husbands would be glad to have reasons why they shouldn’t go along with this lifestyle which is mainly being pushed by the wife.

Thanks for your post ~ I hope you can get through to your cousin.

]]> By: Vyckie http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1309 Vyckie Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:22:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1309 Melissa ~ please do speak up. I highly recommend Kathryn Joyce's book, "Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement." Something about the way she lays it all out at once is just a real eye-opener. I think it would help if she could see where it's all heading and what a trap it is once you get there. <br /><br />If they're into the patriarchy thing ~ then by all means, play by their own rules and speak to her husband. I honestly believe that most husbands would be glad to have reasons why they shouldn't go along with this lifestyle which is mainly being pushed by the wife.<br /><br />Thanks for your post ~ I hope you can get through to your cousin. Melissa ~ please do speak up. I highly recommend Kathryn Joyce’s book, “Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement.” Something about the way she lays it all out at once is just a real eye-opener. I think it would help if she could see where it’s all heading and what a trap it is once you get there.

If they’re into the patriarchy thing ~ then by all means, play by their own rules and speak to her husband. I honestly believe that most husbands would be glad to have reasons why they shouldn’t go along with this lifestyle which is mainly being pushed by the wife.

Thanks for your post ~ I hope you can get through to your cousin.

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1299 Anonymous Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:15:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1299 I just want to say thank you for this blog-I am a Mom of only 5, but listened to QF teachings for so long, sometimes I feel I need to "unlearn" this stuff.<br />I am happily married for 16 yrs. We decided to have a large family together, but lately I have felt guilty that my kids don't get all the individual attention they need. I know I am not alone, and not any more or less spiritual than others choosing less kids.<br />So, some relatives have recently felt convicted to undo a vasectomy, in hopes of adding to their family of 3 children. I can see the Mom is already overwhelmed, with 3 girls, homeschooling, and just daily life. Do i speak up? How would you, Vyckie, go about sharing your opinion? I love my cousin, and I know she loves Christ, but I think she just doesn't see her limits.<br />thank You<br />Melissa I just want to say thank you for this blog-I am a Mom of only 5, but listened to QF teachings for so long, sometimes I feel I need to “unlearn” this stuff.
I am happily married for 16 yrs. We decided to have a large family together, but lately I have felt guilty that my kids don’t get all the individual attention they need. I know I am not alone, and not any more or less spiritual than others choosing less kids.
So, some relatives have recently felt convicted to undo a vasectomy, in hopes of adding to their family of 3 children. I can see the Mom is already overwhelmed, with 3 girls, homeschooling, and just daily life. Do i speak up? How would you, Vyckie, go about sharing your opinion? I love my cousin, and I know she loves Christ, but I think she just doesn’t see her limits.
thank You
Melissa

]]> By: Anonymous http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1308 Anonymous Tue, 14 Apr 2009 03:15:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1308 I just want to say thank you for this blog-I am a Mom of only 5, but listened to QF teachings for so long, sometimes I feel I need to "unlearn" this stuff.<br />I am happily married for 16 yrs. We decided to have a large family together, but lately I have felt guilty that my kids don't get all the individual attention they need. I know I am not alone, and not any more or less spiritual than others choosing less kids.<br />So, some relatives have recently felt convicted to undo a vasectomy, in hopes of adding to their family of 3 children. I can see the Mom is already overwhelmed, with 3 girls, homeschooling, and just daily life. Do i speak up? How would you, Vyckie, go about sharing your opinion? I love my cousin, and I know she loves Christ, but I think she just doesn't see her limits.<br />thank You<br />Melissa I just want to say thank you for this blog-I am a Mom of only 5, but listened to QF teachings for so long, sometimes I feel I need to “unlearn” this stuff.
I am happily married for 16 yrs. We decided to have a large family together, but lately I have felt guilty that my kids don’t get all the individual attention they need. I know I am not alone, and not any more or less spiritual than others choosing less kids.
So, some relatives have recently felt convicted to undo a vasectomy, in hopes of adding to their family of 3 children. I can see the Mom is already overwhelmed, with 3 girls, homeschooling, and just daily life. Do i speak up? How would you, Vyckie, go about sharing your opinion? I love my cousin, and I know she loves Christ, but I think she just doesn’t see her limits.
thank You
Melissa

]]> By: Jadehawk http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1298 Jadehawk Tue, 14 Apr 2009 01:10:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1298 <i>Cmon seriously what else is there?</i>that is the saddest, most unimaginative thing I've ever heard. Life is full of awesome, wonderful things to do and experience, yet you reduce our lives to that of animals which exist only to make another generation. Cmon seriously what else is there?that is the saddest, most unimaginative thing I’ve ever heard. Life is full of awesome, wonderful things to do and experience, yet you reduce our lives to that of animals which exist only to make another generation.

]]> By: Jadehawk http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1307 Jadehawk Tue, 14 Apr 2009 01:10:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1307 <i>Cmon seriously what else is there?</i>that is the saddest, most unimaginative thing I've ever heard. Life is full of awesome, wonderful things to do and experience, yet you reduce our lives to that of animals which exist only to make another generation. Cmon seriously what else is there?that is the saddest, most unimaginative thing I’ve ever heard. Life is full of awesome, wonderful things to do and experience, yet you reduce our lives to that of animals which exist only to make another generation.

]]> By: Tapati http://nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/comment-page-2/#comment-1297 Tapati Tue, 14 Apr 2009 00:42:00 +0000 http://www.nolongerquivering.com/2009/04/04/i-have-too-many-kids/#comment-1297 There was a feminist essay written years ago--I probably still have a copy in my files somewhere--entitled "I Want A Wife." It listed the many things a wife could do for the woman who wrote it and ended "who wouldn't want a wife?"<br /><br />I think we all could use one! There was a feminist essay written years ago–I probably still have a copy in my files somewhere–entitled “I Want A Wife.” It listed the many things a wife could do for the woman who wrote it and ended “who wouldn’t want a wife?”

I think we all could use one!

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