by Arietty The experience of being in a No Win Scenario is a very familiar one to me. A decade after my divorce I still find myself smack up against that in certain conversations. While a marriage to an abuser is replete with such scenes (they rapidly become normal), it’s the big leap of leaving where it angered me the most. I mean, I’ve left, why do I have to put up with this STILL? It’s like after you have a baby and they suddenly want to give you stitches.. haven’t you been through enough? Full post …
Archive for May, 2009
NLQ FAQ: Custody Issues for ex-Quiverfull Parents
By “Dogemperor“ NLQ Frequently Asked Questions Q. What resources are available for former Quiverfull parents seeking to retain/gain legal custody of their children? A. The following guest column by NLQ reader, “Dogemperor” addresses this issue in detail: Firstly, I’d like to thank Vyckie very much for asking me to do this guest column–and a minor caveat or two here: I am not a lawyer, merely someone who grew up in a “New Apostolic Reformation” coercive religious group that now tends to be a heavy promoter of the Quiverfull stuff. Anyways, Vyckie had notified me that Full post …
No-Win Scenario #1 ~ All the Responsibility, None of the Authority
by Vyckie As a convinced “Proverbs 31 woman” ~ dedicated to serving the Lord by honoring, supporting, and even “serving” my husband ~ I always understood that according to the biblical teachings of patriarchy, it is actually the husband who assumes ultimate responsibility for his household. (One day, Warren would be standing before the Lord to give an account for his success or failure in leading the family in accordance with God’s revealed Word). So ~ I believed that while I had only the temporal burden of submitting to my husband’s (often incompetent and wrong-headed) Full post …
Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario
by Vyckie I *finally* got a chance to get to the theater and watch the new Star Trek ~ and I’ll admit that I didn’t completely “get it” ~ what are they planning to do now, start the series over with the new James T. Kirk and crew who’re now different people due to the alternate reality created by the interference of time travelers? Don’t answer that one ~ because this post is not actually about Star Trek. LOL The movie got me thinking about the popular science fiction theme of no-win scenarios as Full post …
Here’s just a tiny little example for ya ‹(ô¿ô)›
By Vyckie As I have been telling my No Longer Quivering story here on the blog, I keep repeating that Warren was “difficult” to talk to because his communication skills were extremely poor. This afternoon, I was reminded of an incident which I really want to share here because it’s an excellent example of the situation we were dealing with. This is actually funny in an oh-that’s-so-pathetic sort of way. Three of my girls (Berea, Chassé, and Hazelle) have a rare genetic bone condition which they inherited from me. They receive treatment at the Shriners Full post …
Vyckie’s Tour de Crap: They Shall Not Be Ashamed
Here’s an article which I wrote shortly after a QF-ing friend had twins (I was so jealous) ~ this was published in Above Rubies and SALT magazines. I’ve added my comments at the end of the article … THEY SHALL NOT BE ASHAMED by vyckie bennett It sure seems to me that a high percentage of Quiver-minded families are blessed with twins (and triplets). Of course, the mere fact that we’re having more pregnancies and many QF mothers are older (two of the “risk factors” for multiples) can partially account for this phenomenon – but Full post …
Dear Happy Full-quiver-er …
by Vyckie Frequently in the comments section here at NLQ, we hear from women who are living the quiverfull/patriarchy lifestyle and are loving it ~ these women often feel that No Longer Quivering is portraying *all* QF/P families as oppressive and abusive ~ and understandably, they feel defensive about the perceived attack on their freely-chosen lifestyle. Early on, when we first started this blog, there was an exchange along these lines which I really have been wanting to highlight ~ and I’m finally getting around to digging these posts out of the comment section and Full post …
Vyckie’s Tour de Crap: A Change of Heart
Are these all yours? No ~ not all ~ Angel was at the zoo when this picture was taken yesterday at the park ~ so one of them is missing I’ve been thinking that now would be a good time to add our “reversal testimony” to my Tour de Crap ~ since I am to the part in my story when the babies started coming … and coming … and coming. Plus ~ Mother’s Day is coming up so that seems like an appropriate opportunity to tell how it is that, although I had determined Full post …
Michelle says, Never enough babies!
