by Tapati This one can be a quick brainstorm for most of you–it’s the second step that will take more time. Make a list of ten things you would like to do if you had your ideal body that you aren’t doing now. Most of us do have a picture in mind of what our ideal body would look like–plus or minus x pounds, minus the scar, with a little more or less height, younger/older, different hair or features–and we imagine we’d be more confident and take more risks or do different things if we Full post …
Archive for 2009
Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Playlist
Body Image Playlist by Tapati Beautiful by Christina Aguilera Mahbootay by Laura Love Video by Indie Arie Girl Next Door and Imperfection by Saving Jane At Seventeen by Janis Ian Why do you love me? or Bleed like me by Garbage Crazy by Simple Plan Unpretty by TLC Perfectly Flawed by Otep Fat Boy by Bizarre Baby Got Back by Sir Mixalot (ok, yes this is funny but those of us with large butts were really happy to have a veritable anthem!) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ NLQ Recommends … ‘Breaking Their Will: Shedding Light on Religious Child Maltreatment’ by Full post …
Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Day Two Assignment
by Tapati Write your body a letter–and allow your body to respond. I would suggest doing this regularly. You can also apply this technique to any particular body part. It sounds so simple–and yet it yields so much if you really open yourself up to a dialog. It is modeled after the empty chair type exercises psychology has utilized for years. Can’t talk to your deceased relative? Write a letter or address them in an empty chair or at their grave site. It’s the same principle. Of course your body is another part of YOU. Full post …
Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Recovery From Crash Dieting
by Tapati Years ago as part of my body image work I went on a “recovery from dieting” program. My relationship with food was a mess after years of crash dieting and growing up in a family of crash dieters. Foods were all divided into strict categories of good and bad, and I associated the “good” foods with starvation diets I’d been on, and the punishment and deprivation I’d experienced. I beat myself up mentally for wanting or enjoying the “bad” foods, foods I now can enjoy in moderation. The rules were simple: 1. Eat Full post …
Quiverfull in a Nutshell
Michelle says, Never enough babies! What the quiverfull movement doesn’t have is satisfaction. It casts itself as only looking for “blessing” but in many cases it seems to go far beyond that to reach the collectors’ mentality which bespeaks more of greed, grabbing for every child you can, and if you don’t do that, you fail spiritually. It’s an insidious teaching and my only regret in accepting my atheism is knowing that there will be no ultimate reckoning where those who promoted and gained from this teaching do not face what they have created and Full post …
Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Day One Assignment
by Tapati Find some images online, in card shops, in books or magazines, or elsewhere of women (or men) whose body type resembles your own. It’s OK if this project takes more than one day, but spend at least 15 minutes per day on it until you have assembled several images. You might color-copy or scan some images if you go to the library to find them. When it comes to magazines, you might look in something other than fashion-oriented issues. Try everything from National Geographic to alternative press titles. Pagan magazines are a good Full post …
Tapati’s Body Image Workshop: Why Body Image Matters
by Tapati My involvement with the issue of body image came out of my encounter with the size acceptance movement in the late 1980s. I was fortunate enough to meet Ruah Bull, a body image educator. I had never heard of such a thing but soon I was exposed to her classes at Cabrillo College in Aptos, California. She had studied with body image guru Marcia Hutchinson and had joined with other large women to form a radical group that occasionally defaced billboards with thin models and went out to eat together in public—always a Full post …
I Have Won
by Tapati Crashing against the wall World spinning crazily Your voice from a distance Screaming in fury Self righteous condemnation Again the blows come They seem to explode inside my head I don’t see your fist in its journey towards my body. In defeat I huddle Arms over my head, shielding in vain Knees drawn up to chest I believe this is the end. Finally you finish Your anger and frustration relieved. Surprised to be alive I remain where I am, in shock. Slowly reason returns. I try to pull myself together Clutching the shreds Full post …
Michelle says, Never enough babies!
