About a month ago, I came across this article: How To Keep Someone With You Foreverfrom Issendai’s Superhero Training Journal. The message has been haunting me ever since because I believe it is so true of abusive, patriarchal relationships ~ and it was certainly the case in my own marriage.
Quick summary:
You create a sick system.
A sick system has four basic rules:
Rule 1: Keep them too busy to think.
Rule 2: Keep them tired.
Rule 3: Keep them emotionally involved.
Rule 4: Reward intermittently.
Wow, huh?
I would love to post the entire article here as the author goes on to explain exactly how to set up such a system ~ and so much of it sounded all too familiar to me.
For example:
Keep the crises rolling.
Things will be better when…
Establish one small semi-occasional success.
Etc. ~ you get the idea.
In the time since I first read it, this article has “gone viral” ~ and for good reason. I hope you’ll take a few minutes to follow the link and read the article in its entirety. If a QF/P leader were looking for a step-by-step instruction manual in how to entice, capture and trap women and their families in their own sick system ~ it’s all spelled out here in simple-to-follow detail.
Ugh!
I know we discussed this already on the NLQ forum ~ but I can’t find the link, so I’ve started a new one. Comments are also open here below.
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Michelle says, Never enough babies!
um… how is this different from classic co-dependency?
OT: Vyckie, i’ve been trying to get back to you, about that volunteer/counseling thing – but you haven’t responded to my emails. i think they went to “spam” again. sorry! can you pls email me again?
Glad to know you’ve gotten out of the QF world and into the much bigger, brighter one. But then I just realized with a sinking feeling that the steps in the keep-someone-with-you-forever system pretty much sum up how our whole government has been operating for about the past 30 years.