by Vyckie Shortly after Angel’s first suicide attempt, I remember thinking to myself that all of my children were growing up without me ~ because I was much too worn down physically ~ plus what little energy I did have was all being zapped from me daily as I tried to make life with their overbearing, micro-managing, hyper-critical, narcissistic father as painless as possible for the children. Despite my efforts, they were all obviously beaten-down and discouraged to the point that we had become of family of zombies ~ excepting, of course, for Warren ~ Full post …
Tag: fundamentalism
Patriarchy Across Cultures: A Lifetime Commitment: Initiation
November 2, 2009
by Tapati Temple Deities In January of 1977 Mike and I were preparing to ask for initiation. We were carefully composing letters to Srila Prabhupada to indicate that we understood the commitment we were making and hoped that he would accept us as disciples. Mike shaved his head, something he’d avoided up until that point. He knew he would not get a recommendation for initiation from the temple authorities if he kept his hair shoulder length. Embarrassed, he wore a cap over his head until it grew out again. We were more strictly abstaining from sex Full post …
Christian Dominionism ~ Part 1: The Ties that Bind Extremist Politics to Christian Patriarchy
November 2, 2009
by km Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 4 In recent years, most popular culture discussions of the Christian Quiverfull movement center on the charming Duggar family of TLC reality fame. The Duggars—parents of eighteen children with another on the way—are seen by many as a wholesome—if quirky—example of a healthy family with astoundingly polite and well-behaved children. It is nearly impossible to have a discussion with a well-meaning Quiverfull-illiterate without hearing that familiar refrain: “They just seem like such nice people!” It’s not uncommon to find secular people who Full post …
You know you read too many blogs when you can describe your day this way …
November 2, 2009
by hopewell With tongue firmly in cheek, I pay homage to those never rattled, never angry, always positive, always thankful Mommys who have made me see my world oh so differently! [And, who have inspired me to find a new form a recreation than reading all their blogs!!! lol...]. I posted this at a FJ to get people thinking creatively about their world. I am not trying to blaspheme, insult anyone. Please relax and take it as H.U.M.O.R., ok? Sunday started off so very well!!! Our Savior woke us in time to worship him in the Full post …
Shutting Off My Brain ~ Part 1
November 2, 2009
by Journey The overt abuse began the day we got married. The wedding was wonderful. I was so excited, so happy. As we drove away to our honeymoon, two Bible College students having just pledged to the Lord their love for one another, I had stars in my eyes. Then my new husband reached over and put his hand on my breast. Not fondling, not foreplay, just putting it there firmly, eyes still on the road, much like a robot. I left it there for a few seconds, stunned, and then tried to gently push Full post …
“Very brave women …”
November 2, 2009
No Longer Quivering is an organization by and for very brave women who have lived a life of parallel reality in a country commonly perceived to be the land of the free. Yet, there is a culture of extremism that skews and twists the Christian Bible, further empowering the males and subjugating the women to extreme servitude and excessive child-bearing. It is truly abuse – spousal abuse & child abuse – and deprives the indoctrinated from joy and a quality of life that is unavailable to them. This organization is unique and crucial in addressing Full post …
Tried to Be the Perfect Woman for Him
November 1, 2009
by aussiemama Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 I used to have an illusion that when I got married, we’d be one big, happy, patriarchial family. My husband would be a strong leader, I would be the submissive housewife. I was a “good Baptist girl”. I was a stay at home wife (and soon to be mom – was pregnant within two weeks of marriage), was growing very long hair (which I still like), only wore skirts and dresses (which I still do but for much different reasons). I went to church every Full post …
Purging Satan’s music….
November 1, 2009
by Erika Shortly after my family entered the cult of patriarchy, my father felt convicted that he needed to rid his house of Satan’s music. This meant getting rid of all his classic rock albums and cassettes. With a family of 6 struggling through the recession of the early 90s in northern NH, those albums would definitely have netted a bit of money that could have been put to good use. As most fundamentalists are taught, if it’s not good for you, then it’s not good for anyone. Instead of selling those albums, they had to Full post …
Michelle says, Never enough babies!
