by Journey The overt abuse began the day we got married. The wedding was wonderful. I was so excited, so happy. As we drove away to our honeymoon, two Bible College students having just pledged to the Lord their love for one another, I had stars in my eyes. Then my new husband reached over and put his hand on my breast. Not fondling, not foreplay, just putting it there firmly, eyes still on the road, much like a robot. I left it there for a few seconds, stunned, and then tried to gently push Full post …
Tag: patriarchy
“Very brave women …”
November 2, 2009
No Longer Quivering is an organization by and for very brave women who have lived a life of parallel reality in a country commonly perceived to be the land of the free. Yet, there is a culture of extremism that skews and twists the Christian Bible, further empowering the males and subjugating the women to extreme servitude and excessive child-bearing. It is truly abuse – spousal abuse & child abuse – and deprives the indoctrinated from joy and a quality of life that is unavailable to them. This organization is unique and crucial in addressing Full post …
Tried to Be the Perfect Woman for Him
November 1, 2009
by aussiemama Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 I used to have an illusion that when I got married, we’d be one big, happy, patriarchial family. My husband would be a strong leader, I would be the submissive housewife. I was a “good Baptist girl”. I was a stay at home wife (and soon to be mom – was pregnant within two weeks of marriage), was growing very long hair (which I still like), only wore skirts and dresses (which I still do but for much different reasons). I went to church every Full post …
Purging Satan’s music….
November 1, 2009
by Erika Shortly after my family entered the cult of patriarchy, my father felt convicted that he needed to rid his house of Satan’s music. This meant getting rid of all his classic rock albums and cassettes. With a family of 6 struggling through the recession of the early 90s in northern NH, those albums would definitely have netted a bit of money that could have been put to good use. As most fundamentalists are taught, if it’s not good for you, then it’s not good for anyone. Instead of selling those albums, they had to Full post …
“… the voices of exited women can not be ignored again”
November 1, 2009
In the few short months since its launch, No Longer Quivering has become a hub for discussion and critique of the Quiverfull lifestyle and other forms of patriarchal forms of Christianity for both the original authors and the smartly-engaged commenters and contributors. The personal stories of site founders Vyckie and Laura drew in masses of readers curious or concerned about the role of women within this fundamentalist movement and soon sparked broader discussion of how women fare under the more common forms of gender inequality in conservative Christianity, such as the mainstream promotion of wifely Full post …
My Secret Desires
November 1, 2009
Lust Behind the Modest Denim Curtain by Arietty During my most deepest, holiest, quivering before God years I would sometimes find my Christian Womanhood alarmingly infiltrated by admirations that were NOT the admirations of a woman whose price was “above rubies”. These admirations stood in stark contrast to my floral blouses and the verses in cross stitch I had displayed on the walls of my home and to the Christian women whose example I wished to emulate. I knew they were wrong, dubious at best and not something I would ever admit to. They Full post …
Someone was trying to control every aspect of my life … including my clothes
October 26, 2009
by Erika Me and my youngest brother, 1991 After being made to quit the basketball team and the FHA group, I was trying to find any way that I possibly could to stay close to my friends. I called them when I could, I would wait outside on my porch after school ended so that I could talk to my classmates that lived on my street as they walked home each afternoon, I would try to get down to the school or a friend’s house when the chance came available. In the meantime, my parents Full post …
Vyckie’s Tour de Crap: “The children do not get it at all …”
October 24, 2009
This letter which I wrote to Jonathan Lindvall via his “Bold Christian Living” email discussion list fits into the time period of the latest installment of my story. This one is total crap ~ I was trying so desperately to figure a way to get Angel to accept and embrace the godly, quiverfull lifestyle which we’d chosen for our family ~ I think that my desperation is quite apparent in this rather pathetic letter: Dear Mr. Lindvall, Thank you so much for your ministry — you have been a great encouragement to my husband & Full post …
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