Tag: post traumatic stress disorder

NLQ FAQ: Is No Longer Quivering an Atheist Website?

September 16, 2010

by Vyckie

I recently received an email from “Henrietta” who asked:

If I choose to get involved here, contribute etc, am I part of a Christian but anti QFP group; or an anti Christian and esp anti QFP group?

It is ironic that NLQ seems to be perceived quite differently depending on the perspective of the reader. We have several new readers who are commenting here on the blog ~ conservative, Quiverfull Christians who are convinced that NLQ is nothing but angry, pro-abortion, Feminazi Atheists. On the other hand, MoJoey at “Deep Thoughts” recently promoted NLQ with the caveat: Now granted, No Longer Quivering is a Christian site and I don’t normally pimp out the opposition but the woman who runs the site is a loving and tireless worker fighting to free others from a cult. Over at Free Jinger, someone was asking, What’s with all the bible quoting at NLQ?

Considering that No Longer Quivering was recently added to the official Atheist Blogroll ~ Henrietta asks a legitimate question!

I hope it won’t be too frustrating for readers if I don’t answer with a simple “Yes,” or “No.”

Since its beginning in March of 2009, NLQ has grown into a community ~ “a gathering place for women escaping and healing from spiritual abuse.” Most of us have spent years, even decades, twisting and contorting ourselves to fit the narrowly-defined, sharply delineated dogma of whatever particular brand of cult we were caught up in. Although we are a diverse group representing a variety of backgrounds, cultures and beliefs ~ we hold in common the shared experience of being conformed to a rigid system of thought which controlled every aspect of our lives and defined us as women and as (sub)human beings.

We’re here now, regaining our sanity, our sense of self ~ on the path of recovery from deep wounds and spiritual trauma ~ and every one of us is at a different place on that path. That makes us hard to peg ~ and indeed, we resist labels and categories ~ we want to be known for our unique perspectives ~ so it’s not uncommon for NLQ members to write in their introductions, “I am a Christian, but …” or “I believe in God, but …” or “I am an Atheist, but…” ~ this is our way of avoiding being stereotyped as though what we now believe can be labeled, neatly summarized and tied up into a nice, tidy Creedal package.

Mayhem On The Home Front: Oh Barf!

May 9, 2010

“MOM! Help!!!” “I hate being sick!” “I don’t wanna barf anymore!” “I can’t take it anymore ~ my stomach’s hurting so bad!” “I think I’m gonna die!!” “MOM!!!!” Lydia Jean and Wesley took turns throwing up all night ~ so between the two of them, none of us got much sleep. Poor kids ~ they’re so pathetic when they don’t feel good! :( It’s not the best start for Mother’s Day ~ but it has the advantage of being a good excuse to skip church ~ I was pretty sure that I would not be able to make it through a Mother’s Full post …

Mayhem On The Homefront ~ Ugh

May 6, 2010

Happy Birthday, Lydia Jean !♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥ ¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ I feel horrible. After my last post in which I shared about this pencil shaving smell that I have stuck in my nose ~ I read all the feedback on the forum ~ everyone’s saying, “Go to a doctor!”  Which scared me ~ so yesterday afternoon, I went to see Janet, the physician’s assistant I’ve been seeing instead of the doctor ~ because, unlike the doctor, Janet actually TALKS to me ~ and I really appreciate that.  I told her about the smell and the taste ~ and the feeling in Full post …

Mayhem On The Homefront: “Don’t Freak Out!”

May 4, 2010

Chassé and me in Minneapolis back in April. Ugh ~ I was tired back then too ~ looked like I was about to cry. by Vyckie The freakiest thing has been happening to me lately: I’m having sensory hallucinations.  Weird smells that get stuck in my nose and mouth for days.  The first time it happened was last summer ~ for several days, all I could smell was cinnamon.  I tasted it too.  The cinnamon smell eventually went away ~ but since then, I’ve had the same thing happen with the smell of bleach, Listerine, oregano, dish soap, Full post …

Mayhem On The Homefront: “Trying Not to Think So Hard”

April 30, 2010

While waiting for Angel’s Show Choir concert to start last Sunday afternoon, Lydia Jean used markers to color Andrew’s hands.  I was thinking, What if I forget to make Andrew take a bath?  He can’t go to school like that.  When we get home, things will be so crazy ~ I’m sure to forget and in the morning, he’s not going to have enough time to wash all that color off his hands.  I know that I will forget. Ugh ~ I’m so doomed!  Don’t panic … calm down … deep breaths … by Vyckie Back in Full post …

Michelle Duggar to Accept “Mother of the Year” Award at Vision Forum’s “Triumph of Life” Baby Conference

April 21, 2010

“Conference attendees will get a powerful look into the way a large Christian family works together as a team in a successful project of national impact, where the goal of the family is to bless the broader culture with a love for Christ.” by Vyckie The Quiverfull folks at Vision Forum are gearing up for their Baby Conference: A Historic Family Summit on the Triumph of Life Over the Culture of Death to be held in San Antonio, Texas this coming July.  According to conference promotional material: As the world lauds barrenness for economic and personal convenience Full post …

A culture of fear built on a thousand little lies

November 5, 2009

by dogemperor My story of how I walked away from Joel’s Army–and joined the survivor community–started, quite ironically enough, with (of all things) Christian heavy metal…because, interestingly enough, it was my first major experience in how coercive groups operate by telling their members a thousand little lies to create a culture of fear. To make a long story short, when I was eleven both the Sunday school I attended (at an Assemblies of God megachurch which I would eventually discover some 24 years later was one of the fifteen most influential churches in the United Full post …

Did I *really* trust Him?

April 24, 2009

by Vyckie   I had lunch with Hazelle at school on her 13th birthday ~ this year was the first time that I didn’t cry as I remembered the trauma of my 4th pregnancy and delivery ~ in fact, I hardly thought of it at all ~ so yeah, time does bring healing and I’m grateful for that. There’s an interesting discussion going on over in the NLQ forums about quiverfull families who are “trusting the Lord” with their family planning and at the same time, accepting government assistance to support their children. themomma said: Full post …